Author: BLOWiNGiT

Everything We Do In Life Should Be Our Choice, Set The Bar High And Don’t Let Others Dictate It For You.

Recently someone very near and dear to my heart told me, “I don’t need you, I will never need you, but I will always choose you.” And I thought, what a profound sentiment and one I would never want to change. I have the same exact right and will always chose this person as well.

That is exactly how we should treat life and the people we want in it. Life should be a choice, who your with, what you do, how you do it, why you do it. As I write these words I’m doing so because I choose too. No deadlines, no boss forcing me too, no obligation other than my own personal choice. We are all presented with choices every single day. If we constantly settle or let someone else dictate our life, we are not exercising our right to choose, we are differing it too someone or something else. And when we do, it’s like we’re throwing up the white flag and surrendering, it’s a lost battle and your freedom is the causality. Make the choice to no longer give in.

If you feel as if you are only doing something because you have too, reconsider your possibilities. If you have a job you can’t stand just to pay bills, research alternatives. Start your own business or find something that suits you better. If your with someone who doesn’t seem to like or respect you. Or you can’t be honest with them and you constantly feel like you have to be someone your not. It might be time to make the choice to find someone who will love and respect you for who you are. Not what you do for them. We should always provide those we love with love, attention, support, affection, adventure, trust, honesty, happiness. Those are all free and choices we will always better off choosing. When those fail, it’s fair to choose to move on. But when it’s based on what you provide materially, not who you are, love is manufactured, you only lease it, you will forever be just a tool for someone else’s choices. And the day you no longer provide those materials the other wants is the day it’s over. And it’s a great day when it happens because that person used their choice to no longer be with you. Celebrate the fact that they exercised their free will.

The most sure fire way to avoid problems ahead is to make sure your wants and needs coincide with each others before you set out on a life together. Because when they do it’s a truly magical moment, and you will always choose to provide the absolute best for the other and they’ll be doing the same for you.



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Live In The Now.

The past is the past leave it where you found it. For it no longer has any bearings on today. The things you did or what others have done, should not matter on what today’s outcome may be. That’s not to say you shouldn’t use your past to learn and grow from. The past helped to create who you are but it doesn’t define you. What I’m insinuating is, there is no point in ever rehashing what has already been done, especially in order to denigrate your or an others past experiences. Dredging up what has already come and gone is a sure fire way to disappoint.

Not all past experiences are bad ones either. So it should also be said to avoid strictly comparing your current life to better times you once had. Those times have past as well, make new memories today. They’re is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying a past memory. It’s when we spend all our time in it and believe their will never be a time quite like that again. That is where we get ourselves into trouble. You run the risk of developing jealousy and contempt for your current life. And than if you make every attempt to rekindle some of the old magic you’ll more often than not end up disappointed. Because anyone and everything from that old scenario has heeded this advice and has already moved on, now your stuck holding the bag. Or in this case a life already lived.

We will go through so many renditions of life. Trying to capture and hang on to just one is a very difficult process and everyone involved must be purvey to your plan, as well as go along with it. We constantly change, we change where we work, we change who we’re with and what relationships we have, we change where we live, we change how we go about our days. It’s futile to think we can just stay complacent in one area. Because once you do, the world has already changed around you. And you be stuck there holding on to a past that is no longer relevant. Lets constantly grow, shed the skin of the old and begin with the new, always start with today in mind. Live for that because its a new dawn, a new you. Create the person you want to be and leave all else where it’s supposed to be. In the past.



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Some Say The Definition Of Insanity Is Doing The Same Thing Over And Over Again And Expecting Different Results.

Each rendition is a new failure and each time we repeat that same failure, we step a little closer to insanity. The sane thing to do would be to take a step back, reassess the problem and come at it from a new angle, with new techniques to combat the old failures. Each time we fail it give us an incredibly valuable opportunity to learn and grow. And to make progress. It’s a true failure and a shame if we’re not utilizing this for our benefit.

Every time we’re dealt a poor hand or we think the world is against us, we’re failing to see the forest through the trees. We are the ones who put ourselves in these situations, we are the ones to get ourselves out. And if we feel stuck, it’s because we keep doing the same damn thing that got us there in the first place. Change course, and try a new tact. If you are constantly in the same dead end relationships, businesses, career, life path, if you constantly end up back where you started. You are not utilizing failure, you are simply repeating it.

The only way to break the cycle is to scrap the playbook you’ve been using and developing a completely new one. And you have to discover for yourself what that looks like. Ask yourself what does a healthy relationship look like and how do those that have it find it? What does a successful business look like and how did those that achieved it carry themselves? What are the happiest people doing in life and how can I add those action to mine. And when you find your answer, throw away what wasn’t working and adopt these new patterns and habits.

Look, we will all fail, a lot, but if were not looking at those failures and finding new ways to improve upon them we’re throwing away one of the all time greatest gifts to ever be bestowed upon us. Failure is a gift, learn from it, grow out of it, utilize it.



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