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Micro Distraction. Avoiding Blowing It #243

How Often Does A Micro Distraction Throw Us Off Our Life Trajectory? We may never truly know because we don’t know the alternative. But in some cases they can have profound affects. Each micro distraction is a mini butterfly effect within your own life. And it’s implications can grow into a hurricane in that life…

Is Dating Implied Ownership? #212

Why Does It Feel As Such? With That Implied Ownership Comes Control. As perfect strangers you can be and do anything you want to be. No one telling you otherwise. If you want to go larping on the weekend you can, if you want to shave your head, or grow a long beard, you can….

The Ultimatum Game #211

There Are No True Winners In The Ultimatum Game. If one side wins the other loses but the cost of the loss will always burden the winner. It’s a all or nothing roll of the dice. Sure you might get what you want. But if you are playing the ultimatum game with someone close to…

“Reality” Dating Shows And Online Dating #209

There Is Nothing Real About Either Online Dating Or Reality Show Dating. It’s all just a facade. Only the surface is shown in online dating. No flaws, no problematic areas. Just this perfect fake representation of ourselves. Than our shows on the same subject that claim to be “reality” paint us this fairy tale image….

All Things Are Conditional, Nothing Is Truly Unconditional #199

If You Believe Something Is Unconditional It’s Because You’ve Adapted To The Condition You’re In. Change it and I assure you many emotions will diametrically rearrange. It might not feel so unconditional after all. Yes, we all love family unconditionally and I would argue that family is a condition we were born into. But have…

An Out Of Balance Life #153.

Balance The Scales Of Life Or Be Relegated To One Where Areas Are Heavily Focused While Others Are Heavily Neglected. Life, love, relationships, work, business, family all need some semblance of balance. And if you live a life dedicated to focus on all these things you must find a way to juggle your time between…

Robbing Another’s Trust #151.

Trust Is A Gift We Give To Those Who Earn It. It Technically Doesn’t Cost A Thing. So If We Give It Freely, How Can It Be Stolen From Us? Betrayal of trust is one of the hardest things we must endure. It is so much harder to repair when lost or stolen then any…

Apologizing Because Of Backlash (Blowing It Scenario #143).

We All Know You Don’t Mean It. It’s A Forced Apology. It’s sometimes hard to eat crow, having to swallow your pride and apologize isn’t always easy. Apologies can be a tough pill to swallow but when you know you’re in the wrong it’s always the right thing to do, even if it hurts. But…

Divorce (Blowing It Scenario #120).

Divorce Is One Of The Biggest Life And Relationship Lessons One Can Receive. Don’t Waste It. Divorce was never even in my conscious realm. I thought I did everything right. Never cheated, Never used drugs, Never uttered bad name towards the other, only built up each other, Went to bed every night together, every evening…

Taking Yourself To Seriously (Blowing It Scenario #118).

Life’s Too Short, Have Fun, Be Playful, Get Creative. Sit back, relax, kick off your shoes and throw up your feet. Let me be your leisure coach for a brief minute. Too often in our lives we take ourselves far too seriously. So much so it often comes back to bite us in our ass….